Sports Parents, Do You Talk Too Much?

By Janis Meredith | Posted 3/4/2019

In an effort to help their children have success in competition, parents often fall into the trap of talking way too much to their kids about sports.

For instance, think about the ride to your child’s game. What happens in your car?

Be sure you tackle hard...

Don’t forget to keep your eye on the ball...

Remember to block properly, and be sure you cover your man

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And what about after the game?

You should have intercepted that ball...

Maybe next time be a little quicker on defense...

Remember what I told you about looking for the open guy...

Honestly, you are not helping your child by over analyzing, over-talking and over-preparing him/her for their game. In other words: Stop talking so much!

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At least stop talking so much about sports and the game he is about to or just played. Unless your child is the one who brings it up and wants your opinions and help, then try to keep your pre-game remarks simple:

Have fun with your friends!

You’re gonna do great!

And on the way home, refrain from doubting your child’s effort, pointing out mistakes or asking a lot of questions. How about this instead?

You worked hard today!

I loved watching you play!

That was a tough loss – I’m sorry.

More than your coaching or analyzing, your child needs your unconditional love, listening ears, and belief that he or she can succeed. Those are things that can be communicated without an over-abundance of words.

Janis Meredith is a family coach who wants to help all parents raise champions. You can find out more at